7 Haziran 2013 Cuma

Repetition Compulsion


It is a physiological term that refers to being compelled to repeat as understood from the meaning. Some of us might wonder, I did, why we keep making the same mistake, so there is a term for it. The main idea is basically people trying to change their past with their current experiences which mostly end up as a failure, since nobody can change their past. Here are some notes I have found and liked about the topic:
"In practice, the failure to manage emotions usually plays a pivotal role in repetitive relationship scenarios. Whether it is a habit of being too quick to anger or one of being hypervigilant for abandonment, the behavior that results from the overpowering feelings in turn causes a cascade of reactions resulting in similar experience.
That wounded, rejected, abandoned little boy or girl is still trying to win mommy or daddy's love. In order for the repetition compulsion to play out, the love interest must, by definition, possess at least some of the emotional deficits or traits as did the original parent. Indeed, that is what the repetition compulsion is all about: a recreation of these relationship dynamics, so as to provide an opportunity to, this time, change the outcome. The inner child thinks: "This time will be different. I will get this person to love me. I can change him or her, if I only try hard enough. I won't fail again. Then I will feel loveable." But tragically, this futile effort is doomed to failure. For if, as part of the repetition compulsion, we specifically choose individuals who cannot love us because of their own limitations and problems, what are the odds of making them do so? Can we "fix" them? Force them? Transform them? Cure them? Not very likely. The rational adult part of ourselves knows that. But the wounded little boy or girl within is still trying, just as he or she did with the parents, each inevitable failure reinforcing feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, and unlovability. And so it goes.
So how can we resolve the pesky repetition compulsion? With great difficulty.  Because to do so requires relinquishing the defense mechanism itself. The repetition compulsion defends against the experience of all those feelings we denied during childhood about our imperfect parents and ourselves: sadness, anger, rage, despair, hopelessness, hurt. Feelings we were unequipped to cope with then, and continued avoiding into adulthood, now must be faced."
As a matter effects, I believe it can be resolved. I agree it can't be easy but what is easy my friend. Be aware, work on it, there is nothing you can't fix, at least about yourself! Hurray!!!

Next, I will talk about impulsive behavior and rational emotive behavioral therapy.
(http://well.wvu.edu/articles/dealing_with_impulsive_behavior, this website looks quite useful)






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